Why I Became An Escort

Growing up, I always had a fascination with the sex industry long before I made the decision to dip my toes in. When I was 21, I knew it was time to start stripping. And so, as an absolutely terrified newbie, I had my first audition at The Spearmint Rhino in Melbourne. And boy did I love it! Being completely naked in front of a crowd who’s totally hypnotised by you—what’s not to love? I’m a performer, so I enjoyed the freedom and liberation on stage, and I’ve always thought of myself as an exhibitionist. I love showing off, being sexual in nature and I enjoy being quite the flirt.

I spent time in and out of stripping but after a while, I became tired of the relentless hustling, and what felt to me like a huge lack of connection with customers. I had always wondered about what it would be like to be a full service sex worker. And I think deep down I always knew I’d end up working as an escort. Something in me certainly knew. I’m bubbly, playful and cheeky with a high sex drive! So, for me full service sex work was a clear career choice when I turned 25 and walked into my first parlour. I loved meeting people from all walks of life, and admittedly I miss the dressing room banter amongst my fellow strippers and working girls that as an independent escort, I don’t really have anymore.

I’ve always been fascinated by people’s kinks and unique turn ons, nothing to me is ever ‘weird’ or ‘gross.’ And honestly, I love love LOVE having sex. It’s as simple as that, and I have genuinely had a lot of great sex with many of my clients. Sexually charged me is happy letting loose, and ready for more! I also love holding a safe space for people who see sex workers for a variety of reasons. Some just want some safe and casual fun, some need emotional intimacy that’s been lacking in their lives and will often seek longer term companionship and arrangements. Some are seeking an experience where they can finally explore their desires without being judged or criticised. We live in a world that still demonises sexuality and various kinks/desires so intensely that it can quietly cause some serious sexual repression. Other times, I’m being invited into a couples’ first threesome. And what an absolute honour that is for me! To be involved in what will be a memorable night for a couple is truly special to me.

Naturally, I was also drawn to the financial benefits of escorting. I spent years working minimum wage jobs and I was sick to death of hardly ever having money left over after all my bills were paid, not to mention constantly being stuck in a cycle of debt, unable to ever afford anything. I have found freedom in sex work, financially but also emotionally. I’m in charge of my life and I run a really successful business. I run the show and no one is in charge of me. I have grown into the strong woman I always envisioned that I would become.

I’ve always been openly sexual in nature. My closest friends would know this about me, and they weren’t at all surprised I entered the industry. I’ve been blessed with so much support around me, and this includes family members. My loved ones only want me to be safe and happy.

I’m out, loud and proud and I don’t really care what others think of me. I was the ‘slut’ and the ‘whore’ in high school, and over the last number of years I’ve learnt to really embrace my sexuality in a world that constantly demonises and punishes women for owning it, for having any kind of power, agency or control over our sexuality and our bodies.

I’m truly living the dream of being able to work a job that allows me to connect with so many wonderful people from all walks of life. It’s been a beautiful experience to hold a safe space for people who really need it, and for those that still do. It’s such an honour when a client shares things with me at their most vulnerable, and being able to hold space for that.

Some clients have had to say goodbye, and I have been deeply saddened having to say goodbye to some beautiful clients I’m not sure I may see again anytime soon, but they will forever hold such a special place in my heart. I’ve always felt like I’ve had a bit of a ‘gift’ so to speak, one that I think many sex workers have, in the sense that they’re often very nurturing people, and are good at making people feel safe, seen and heard. I’ve always known I’m quite an empath.

You see, sex work isn’t purely just transactional. At least, I speak for myself and my experiences here. But my wholesome connections with people, however big or small, can often mean the world to me.

We’re all human, after all.
Hollie x